Dating recovering alcoholic first year
Jill* knows that shell eventually have to confess her situation to a long-term partner.“Its something that will affect me if and when I settle down and have children, since I would not be able to take these medicines [while pregnant],” she explains.Though she takes medication to manage her condition, she still lives with residual symptoms: She has trouble sleeping for more than two hours at a time, and can't shake her cigarette habittraits that she feels a date might question.“Its the smoking and lack of sleeping; its hard to share your life with someone when you need to explain further why you do these things,” she says.Still, I didn’t get into a relationship until my second year of sobriety.Ever since freshman year of high school, I always had a girlfriend.I had been fired from my dream job at a theater company. So I quit drinking—and my other vice, cough syrup—and started going to AA meetings in July 2010. As far as the no-dating suggestion, I considered myself exempt.
They tell us not to make any major decisions our first year of sobriety.“No major changes in the first year” is a common suggestion for newcomers in AA.It means holding off on moving, changing jobs, starting a relationship, etc. If these things don’t work out—or even if they do—change can drive people to drink or use again. And I’m glad I didn’t: Dating in my first year helped me find the love of my life. My drinking and drug use escalated so quickly in college that my life seemed in danger of becoming a cautionary tale.Facing uncharted dating territory without your usual liquid courage can increase your risk for relapse.You might make up excuses as to why you aren’t drinking (i.e.